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Couples Therapy: You Need to Know Each Other

Confronting the problems in your marriage and working through them – together – is the key to making any marriage work. And one of the major issues in a marriage, something that neither spouse might even realize, is not really knowing their partner. You need to know each other. Plain and simple. I touched on […]

My Book Release: “Putting Kids First”

Today’s the day! After a ton of hard work, I’m happy to announce that the book I co-authored, Putting Kids First in Divorce: How to Reduce Conflict, Preserve Relationships, and Protect Your Children During and After a Divorce, is now available on Amazon. Eleven divorce, co-parenting, and relationship professionals – including myself – have come […]

The Invisible Space between Action and Reaction Can Fix Your Marriage

Too often during counseling sessions, I hear married couples make the same kinds of statements: “He made me do it!” or “She caused me to behave that way!” These exclamations are fairly common. And you have probably made your own similar statements to a close friend or family member, venting about your spouse. We don’t […]

Marriage Questions: What Do Surrendering and Forgiveness Have in Common?

Sometimes when we are married, we have to do things we don’t always want to do. We do these things because we love our partner and we know which battles are worth fighting. Often we try and try and try to get our spouse to CHANGE, but we need to realize – sooner than later […]

Why Change Will Save Your Marriage

Many of us will stay stuck in a belief or habitual behavior even if we know our spouse resents it. Even if our spouse consistently expresses that resentment. We are too arrogant or stubborn to admit “a problem.” Or to simply please our spouse and CHANGE. Why change? Because it can save your marriage. Now […]

Hope vs. Expectation

Do you know the difference between a hope and an expectation? Most people would probably say yes. Hope is when you want something to happen, while expectation is when you, well, expect it to happen. But hopes and expectations are more similar than many of us realize. They both involve us having a desire that […]

NYC Marital Coach

Fish Love or Real Love? A NYC Marital Coach on the Power of Giving

We all say we “love” lots of things. “I love that TV show!” “I love Starbucks!” “I love the Yankees!” But what we really mean is that we have strong feelings about something because it fulfills a need that we have. In the eloquent video below, well-known author and Rabbi Dr. Abraham Twerski uses the […]

How to Save a Marriage: Why Me First?

Sometimes when I am approached about a troubled relationship, there’s only one person doing the approaching. They feel like things are going wrong, but their partner either doesn’t seem to notice or isn’t willing to try to fix things. Invariably, this leads them to two questions: Is it worth working on a relationship if you’re […]

Happy marriage and family

Marriage and Family: What Children Can Learn from Happily Married Parents

As parents, we are here to teach and guide our children as they grow up. We impart wisdom and morals. And we hope our kids will take what they learn from us and apply it in their own lives. But we also teach by example. In fact, this may be the most powerful form of […]

My Daughter Is Engaged!

February 15, 2015 Mazal Tov! My daughter is engaged! Being a Relationship coach and certified divorce coach is a profession I greatly enjoy since I love helping others knowing there’s light at the end of the tunnel once one finds the right guidance and help. Having been through divorce, a failed brief second marriage, and […]