The Key to Saving a Marriage: Perseverance

When you get married, however, you make a promise to love your spouse for better or for worse, through both the highs and the lows, the good and the bad. The good times are easy to get through. Enjoy them. Treasure them. Hold on to them. Because you may need to remind yourself of the […]

Seal Your Exits Save Your Marriage

Why You Need to Seal Your Exits to Save Your Marriage

When you get married, you promise to devote yourself to both your spouse and your marriage. But for some couples, the longer you’ve been married, the easier it is to forget why you said your vows in the first place. Often, couples start to struggle because they stop focusing on each other and put their […]

Marital Advice: Share Appreciations and Admirations

When you’ve been in a relationship or marriage for a long time, it’s easy to take your partner for granted. Not that you want to take them for granted, but it just happens. We get into a routine. We get comfortable. And because of this we don’t tell our partner how much we love, value, […]

Marriage Advice: Say My Name

A person’s name is the most important word in the world to them. It connects you to your identity. You could be in a chaotic crowd, but if someone were to say your name, even from a distance, you would turn your head toward the familiar sound – even if they weren’t talking to you! […]

Marriage Troubles: Diagnosing a Spouse

More often than not, upon an initial consultation with a client, I hear some of the following remarks: My spouse has OCD. My spouse has ADD. My spouse is manic-depressive. My spouse is bipolar. And the list goes on and on. When I first began working with couples, the husband and the wife would each […]

Couples Therapy: You Need to Know Each Other

Confronting the problems in your marriage and working through them – together – is the key to making any marriage work. And one of the major issues in a marriage, something that neither spouse might even realize, is not really knowing their partner. You need to know each other. Plain and simple. I touched on […]

The Invisible Space between Action and Reaction Can Fix Your Marriage

Too often during counseling sessions, I hear married couples make the same kinds of statements: “He made me do it!” or “She caused me to behave that way!” These exclamations are fairly common. And you have probably made your own similar statements to a close friend or family member, venting about your spouse. We don’t […]

Marriage Questions: What Do Surrendering and Forgiveness Have in Common?

Sometimes when we are married, we have to do things we don’t always want to do. We do these things because we love our partner and we know which battles are worth fighting. Often we try and try and try to get our spouse to CHANGE, but we need to realize – sooner than later […]

Why Change Will Save Your Marriage

Many of us will stay stuck in a belief or habitual behavior even if we know our spouse resents it. Even if our spouse consistently expresses that resentment. We are too arrogant or stubborn to admit “a problem.” Or to simply please our spouse and CHANGE. Why change? Because it can save your marriage. Now […]

Hope vs. Expectation

Do you know the difference between a hope and an expectation? Most people would probably say yes. Hope is when you want something to happen, while expectation is when you, well, expect it to happen. But hopes and expectations are more similar than many of us realize. They both involve us having a desire that […]