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Why It’s Important to Communicate What Bothers You
In a recent post, I wrote about why people need to make sacrifices in relationships. That when you have a partner, it’s important to be willing to give up some of your autonomy in order to make them happier – and vice versa. But you do not want to simply give in to behaviors, preferences, […]
Love Means Being Willing to Sacrifice
When you think about love, you probably imagine the things you will get out of a relationship. A partner who will dote on you. Who will support you in times of need. Who will be there to share things with. Who will make you laugh. Feel secure. Feel happy. In a good relationship, all of […]
What’s Your Partner’s Attachment Style?
We’ve all heard of the Golden Rule: “Do unto others as you would have others do unto you.” But when it comes to relationships, it’s not always best. Instead, it’s best to take it up a notch. Embrace the Platinum Rule: “Treat others the way they want to be treated.” The Platinum Rule is particularly […]
Two Words to Avoid in Arguments for Better Conflict Resolution
Always. Never. In a heat of the moment, these two words can slip out way too easily. We use them as verbal battering rams when our partners hurt our feelings. “You never take out the trash.” “You always come home late from work.” Do these statements sound familiar? How do you anticipate the person they’re […]
A Forgiveness Exercise to Try with Your Spouse
We’re all human. Even your soulmate will make mistakes. Probably many of them. Repeatedly. That’s why forgiveness is such a vital part of a successful marriage. But there are many misconceptions about forgiveness. And they can hold us back from embracing it. It’s not just about moving on from conflict, forgetting what happened, or excusing […]
Give Love to Receive Love
“I feel unloved.” It is a common sentiment expressed by my clients. Sometimes they even believe their spouses love them. They may even know it to be true. But they don’t feel it. And that matters. When you don’t feel the affection of your partner, it can cause you to drift away over time. You […]
Time Together vs. Time Apart: Which Is More Important?
How much time should a couple spend together? Apart? That’s the tug and pull of many couples. Too much time together could make one partner feel suffocated. Too much time apart could make one partner feel isolated. So how much time is best? There’s something most couples overlook that I’m going to share. But first, […]
How to Curb the Urge to Lash Out at Your Spouse
Your spouse says something that rubs you the wrong way. Or forgets to do the dishes… again. Your mind starts a downward spiral. Your whole body tenses up. And before you know it… you’ve lashed out at them. Anger can be a hard thing to control. But it is never helpful. All it does is […]
6 Relationship Tips for a Happier Passover
Pesach is here again! Passover is an exciting time to enjoy our family’s company and remember the importance of our faith. However, for many households hosting the Seder meal — and the family that will attend — the faith, optimism, and other lessons of Passover are pushed aside as we become focused on the logistics of the event. We […]
5 Rules for Discussing Finances with Your Spouse
It’s hard enough to budget as a single person. But when you add a spouse into the equation, money can quickly become a source of tension. Even if both partners are working and can afford to live comfortably, issues like savings, college funds, and healthcare may need to be arranged. Don’t put these conversations off […]
