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4 Behaviors to Avoid in a Conflict

4 Behaviors to Avoid in Conflicts – Before They Kill Your Relationship

Old habits die hard, but in the case of conflicts, old habits can kill a relationship. Dr. John Gottman, founder of The Gottman Institute, identified four specific habits that are the most destructive in relationships and the best predictors of separation. He dubbed them the “Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse”. It’s likely these Four Horsemen […]

The Importance of Pre-Marital Coaching

When most couples get engaged, relationship coaching usually isn’t at the top of their gift registry. But it should be. It’s one of the best things an engaged couple can do before they tie the knot. Most of us think that seeking out marriage help is only necessary late in a relationship – typically as […]

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Wishing You a Happy New Year! I’ll Be Back in November.

Due to the Jewish holidays, I will take a break from my blog for the month of October. I plan to use this time to reflect, and I’ll be back again in November renewed with fresh ideas to help you improve yourself and your relationship. I would like to wish you and your loved ones […]

What Children Learn from Your Marriage

This article was originally published in FYI Magazine, the fastest growing home and lifestyle magazine for Jewish women. It is your job as a parent to teach your children. You teach them how to talk and walk. You teach them how to ride a bicycle. You teach them how to cook. You teach them how […]

Putting Down Your Co-Parent in Front of the Kids Hurts You Most

It’s not easy to constantly see your ex. But if you have shared custody of your children, this is a reality you have to face. You will not only have to see them often, but also have important conversations regarding finances and parenting. This can be difficult if you and your ex have different ideas […]

The Importance of Accepting Your Spouse for Who He or She Is

I talk a lot here about conflict resolution. How to communicate with your spouse when something is bugging you. How to resolve an issue that is causing negativity within your marriage. And so on. Hopefully, the reason is obvious – couples fight. It’s normal! But you must deal with differences in a positive, productive way. […]

Preparing Your Relationship for the Holiday Season

Can you believe it’s time for another holiday season already? You can celebrate love and family. Reminisce about the past year. Share plans and dreams for the year to come. You get to eat your favorite foods. Visit with people you haven’t seen in a while. It truly is a special time. But the stress […]

Take Care of Yourself to Take Care of Your Relationship

If there’s an emergency on an airplane that causes the oxygen masks to come down, parents are supposed to put their masks on first. Before they put masks on their children. The idea is simple. You’ll be in a better position to take care of them after doing what you can to ensure your own […]

Should I Talk About Everything That Bothers Me?

In real estate, it’s all about “location, location, location.” Where a property is located greatly determines that property’s value. In relationships, however, when bringing up an important topic that needs to be discussed, it’s all about “timing, timing, timing.” Let’s be clear: you should be able to discuss anything and everything with your spouse. But it’s […]

How to Get Back Out There: Dating Tips for Divorcees

Navigating the dating world was hard enough the first time around, so getting back out there might seem impossible. Trust me, I know! I’ve been there. Once you feel that it’s time for you to start dating again, you’re probably going to face obstacles and challenges you haven’t have to deal with for years. I […]