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A Powerful Tool to Help You Get Through Conflicts
Words are powerful. During a fight with your partner, their words may hurt you immensely and stick in your mind for hours, days, or even weeks. And your words have equal power to do harm to your partner. But you can also harness the power of words for good. You can use words to get […]
Are You a Team or Opponents? A Healthier Way to “Win” an Argument
After a big political debate, what is the first thing we hear about? Who won and who lost. Does a clear winner ever come out though? Depending on what source you listen to or who you talk to, it’s fairly common to hear that both candidates “won” or “lost” the debate. But choosing this “winner” […]
Why (and How) to Give Your Partner the Benefit of the Doubt
When you’ve been with a partner for a long time, it’s typical to assume you know how they will behave in a particular situation. Or even why they think or do something. Most of the time, acting like you can read your partner’s mind isn’t the worst thing in the world. Your partner may even […]
What’s Getting in the Way of Your Gratitude?
Thanksgiving is just a few days away. It’s the holiday for taking time to appreciate each other. To count your blessings. To be thankful. According to research, gratitude is a powerful thing. Those who truly feel it have more friends. They’re healthier, happier, less aggressive, and more mentally resilient. And just overall, they feel better […]
4 Behaviors to Avoid in Conflicts – Before They Kill Your Relationship
Old habits die hard, but in the case of conflicts, old habits can kill a relationship. Dr. John Gottman, founder of The Gottman Institute, identified four specific habits that are the most destructive in relationships and the best predictors of separation. He dubbed them the “Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse”. It’s likely these Four Horsemen […]
The Importance of Pre-Marital Coaching
When most couples get engaged, relationship coaching usually isn’t at the top of their gift registry. But it should be. It’s one of the best things an engaged couple can do before they tie the knot. Most of us think that seeking out marriage help is only necessary late in a relationship – typically as […]
Wishing You a Happy New Year! I’ll Be Back in November.
Due to the Jewish holidays, I will take a break from my blog for the month of October. I plan to use this time to reflect, and I’ll be back again in November renewed with fresh ideas to help you improve yourself and your relationship. I would like to wish you and your loved ones […]
What Children Learn from Your Marriage
This article was originally published in FYI Magazine, the fastest growing home and lifestyle magazine for Jewish women. It is your job as a parent to teach your children. You teach them how to talk and walk. You teach them how to ride a bicycle. You teach them how to cook. You teach them how […]
Putting Down Your Co-Parent in Front of the Kids Hurts You Most
It’s not easy to constantly see your ex. But if you have shared custody of your children, this is a reality you have to face. You will not only have to see them often, but also have important conversations regarding finances and parenting. This can be difficult if you and your ex have different ideas […]
The Importance of Accepting Your Spouse for Who He or She Is
I talk a lot here about conflict resolution. How to communicate with your spouse when something is bugging you. How to resolve an issue that is causing negativity within your marriage. And so on. Hopefully, the reason is obvious – couples fight. It’s normal! But you must deal with differences in a positive, productive way. […]
